Being Present in Your Child’s Life

22nd July 2019

Posted in: Blog Mindfulness Parenting

Being present in your child’s life means truly hearing what they have to say, noticing what it is they aren’t saying and understanding what really makes them tick. It’s about taking the time to be with your child, hearing about their life, celebrating achievements, talking over difficulties and generally knowing what is going on in their world.

Most children want to spend quality time with their parents, free from the distractions of busy lives, work commitments, mobile phones and laptops. In other words, they want their parents to be present in their life and willing to set aside some time where the child has the parents undivided attention. Spending quality time with your child is one of the most cherished gifts you can give to them. It sends a clear message to your child that he or she is valued and loved, and that you are prepared to put aside life’s distractions in order to truly hear and focus on what is going on in their life. This creates the foundation for a strong and supportive relationship which can bring lifelong rewards.

Making the effort to be present in your child’s life goes a long way towards strengthening the parent/child bond. Not only will you develop a deeper understanding of who your child is, your child will feel a deeper connection with you. This in turn will help to increase their level of trust in the relationship, sense of self-worth, confidence and overall general happiness.

Spending quality one-on-one time with your child doesn’t have to be costly, nor does it have to involve a huge amount of time on a daily basis. It simply needs to be something you both enjoy and that allows time to talk and be together for a period of time on a regular basis.  Some ideas include;

  • Kick a ball around at the park
  • Go for a walk somewhere nice
  • If finances allow, go to a café for a bite to eat or something to drink
  • Pitch a tent in the backyard and have a “sleep out”
  • Go for a bike ride
  • Go to the skate park
  • Play cards or a boardgame
  • Pack a picnic basket with food from home and go to the beach or river etc.
  • Go fishing
  • Pick a hobby to do together
  • Help your child cook a favourite meal
  • Take the dog for a walk
  • Build a cubby house together out of things you already have lying around the house
  • Watch a favourite sporting team play a match
  • Go for a drive
  • Do some exercise together

If you feel you need help with managing distractions and being present in your child’s life, then counselling may be of help. For help and support, please call Karen Cummins at Mindful Crossroads counselling service on 0400 416 535 or fill in the “Contact” section on the Mindful Crossroads website to arrange a confidential discussion.